A pastor shares, “I thought it was wrong to vent emotions. I didn’t want to name negative emotions and make them more real so I just kept them inside.” Repressing emotions puts them in your body and diminishes your capacity to love and lead well. Kristi helps Bill process his feelings about Brennan Manning’s memoir confessions of ongoing alcoholism and deceit during his ministry.
This is the cry of “J. P.’s” heart. We share his story of not feeling God’s presence, struggling with depression and alcohol, being judged. His earnest faith, spiritual disciplines, and service in church aren’t helping. He asks, “Bill and Kristi, what would you say to me?” If you or someone you know relates to J. P., tune in for empathy, affirmation, and spiritual formation coaching.
Kristi asks Bill, “How are you feeling?” He shares he feel’s sad for Jesus. Because a group of Christians regularly go from a church meeting to social meeting in which they drink too much and have unwholesome conversation. It’s like two different lives. Their is great joy and blessing in being with Jesus in all that we do. This is our best witness to the world.
What’s God doing when hurricane’s hit? How do we deal with hardships? We go to Jesus together. We validate the emotions and offer empathy. We may need to re-think our perspective and faith and do some training to learn how to live and react to trials from within the spiritual reality of the Kingdom of God.
Like some ministry leaders today Nicodemus was stuck in his head and emotionally reluctant. Jesus offers masterful empathy to help him re-think — and re-feel! — his life to be “born from above” in the Kingdom of God. Here’s an insightful Bible study on John 3:1-17 put into the format of a refreshing empathy-based conversation.
A woman asks, “How can I help my husband share his feelings?” We all have family members or friends who are reluctant to share emotions. Maybe you are too! Here’s how to invite people to be emotionally vulnerable and draw them into the grace of Christ. In a replay of a conversation from the past, Kristi uses empathy to draw out Bill when he was an emotionally reluctant husband.