Boundaries With Family For the Holidays
We love being with family for the holidays — or maybe not! It can be stressful! And in some family relationships, it’s awkward or uncomfortable.…
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Breaking Secret Agreements – Collusions
Unconscious collusions in relationships harm people in families, friendships, church staffs, and work partnerships. In this case “collusion” does not refer to a conspiracy or…
Codependency Recovery
Many people we talk with are stuck in unhealthy patterns in their relationships. Tolerating mistreatment, rescuing, being afraid to say no, needing to please, and…
Dysfunctional Family Roles as Spiritual Formations
Today “spiritual formation” means many different things. Self-help. Learning Bible doctrines. Inner spirituality. Being like a monk. But Jesus’ idea is simply to “love one…
I Felt Like a Son in Grief, Not a Pastor
When my dad died my mom asked me to be the minister for his funeral. But I felt like a son in grief, not a…
Re-Soul: Less is More – Resisting Two Preacher Mistakes to “Be Jesus” With People
It’s a grind to give a sermon every week. It can be similar for Bible study teachers, bloggers, podcasters, and other spokespersons for Christ. It…
Re-Soul: In a Hurry? 3 Ways to Add Margin and Peace (and Prevent Burnout)
Adapted from Your Best Life in Jesus’ Easy Yoke by Bill Gaultiere. Often we hurry to be successful in ministry or just get through our…
Re-Soul: 4 Ways Emotions Help You Love and Lead Better (and Prevent Burnout)
If you keep negating your emotions you’ll hurt yourself and people you love. Eventually you’ll burnout. This is true for pastors and other workers seeking…
Re-Soul: Confessions of a Type A Leader
“The reason I share my junk with you,” a pastor disclosed. “Is because you’re not a monkish spiritual formation guy. I can’t relate to the…
Jesus Shows Us Healthy Relational Boundaries
When Jesus lived on earth, he never walked on eggshells around people, worried about upsetting them, clung to them for approval, or pushed to get…