COVID-19: Help for Grief

It’s like there’s a dark cloud called COVID-19 hovering over us. It’s generating worry, irritableness, discouragement, and especially tiredness. What is this dark cloud? What is it that is sapping our energy and causing stress reactions? Author David Kessler calls it “anticipatory grief.” But probably we feel it as anticipatory anxiety. We worry and ruminate…

COVID-19: Feeling God’s Love Despite Social Distancing

“My skin screams to be touched!” a single man cried to me. He’d been living alone and that’s how deeply he longed to feel close to someone. Research has shown that we all need hugs, handshakes, kisses, back rubs, or being present with a family member or friend to be healthy physically and emotionally. Without…

COVID-19: Coronavirus Fears and Emotionally Honest Faith

Everyone is stressed by the Coronavirus. And it’s not caring or helpful if someone tells you, “Don’t be afraid—have faith in God.” Unfortunately, great Bible verses are getting misused to say that. This leaves people feeling judged or like they need to put on a happy face. After the Coronavirus hit I started having stress…

5 Keys to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence (SMART Love)

90% of top performers in business utilized Emotional Intelligence (EQ) to succeed. Furthermore, their EQ was more important to their success than their IQ. EQ is even more important for effectively loving and leading in your family and church. Daniel Goleman identified five core capacities of Emotional Intelligence, three that are personal and two that…

Re-Soul: In a Hurry? 3 Ways to Add Margin and Peace (and Prevent Burnout)

Adapted from Your Best Life in Jesus’ Easy Yoke by Bill Gaultiere. Often we hurry to be successful in ministry or just get through our responsibilities for the day. But the Bible’s great chapter on love begins with, “Love is unhurried…” (1 Corinthians 13:4, paraphrased). Putting unhurried margin (or soul space) in our schedule and…

Re-Soul: 4 Ways Emotions Help You Love and Lead Better (and Prevent Burnout)

If you keep negating your emotions you’ll hurt yourself and people you love. Eventually you’ll burnout. This is true for pastors and other workers seeking to serve God. It may seem like your feelings, desires, and needs diminish your productivity. But research on emotional intelligence proves the opposite to be the truth. Caring for your…