Communicating Emotion to Invite Empathy

Often in marriage or another relationship we think we have an intimacy problem when really it’s more about a boundary problem. Boundaries between people get blurred if either one tries to share their “feelings” by sharing their perceptions of the other person. This blurs boundaries and leads to conflict. Instead, if you share your personal…

The Soul of Sex

“Sex” and “soul” are both very popular in our world today. But we have no idea how to put them together. Sex is everywhere in our society. To be sexy is the way to attract attention. It’s how we feel good. It’s how we bond — even with strangers. It’s how we sell things. The…

A & B Conflict Resolution Tool

Here’s a little tool that offers BIG help for resolving conflicts in marriage and other relationships: “When You Do ‘A’ I Feel ‘B.’” It’s a method for “speaking the truth in love”(Ephesians 4:15). Kristi and I have used this approach for many years personally and in our marriage counseling with couples. (Also Henry Cloud and…