The Examen of Consciousness to Practice God’s Presence

An ancient tool for helping us learn to practice God’s presence and grow in a more intimate relationship with the Lord is called the Examen of Consciousness or simply “The Examen.” The Examen? If you’re not familiar with it then it probably doesn’t sound appealing! The idea of being examined is something most of us want to…

The Lord is My Shield in Emotional Battles

Praying a Psalm with Jesus is a powerful spiritual discipline. “The Lord is My Shield in Emotional Battles” has been a helpful exercise that I’ve used in many Soul Care Group meetings I lead. Introduction Jesus’ gospel is that we ought to re-think how we’re living our life in light of our opportunity, right now,…

Caring for People who Cut Themselves (Help for Self-Injury)

Years ago I was responsible for training volunteer telephone counselors for an international Christian ministry. We were getting 150 calls a day from adults and teenagers who were in crisis, hurting in some other way, or needing prayer. Some of the young people who called were struggling with cutting themselves. This frightened some of our…

Soul Talk: Inviting God into your Conversations

We long for soul talk with a friend that helps us experience God’s presence. You can facilitate these life-giving spiritual conversations. I’ve been doing this for many years, not only in my ministry as a Psychologist and Spiritual Director, but also in my marriage and friendships. I love to elevate conversations into experiences of soul…

Love Languages Test

This Love Languages Test is a free, simple tool we designed based on the concepts in Gary Chapman’s best-selling book, Love Languages. It’s meant to be completed by you and your spouse, family member, or friend and then discussed in order to help you better understand one another’s preferred styles for giving and receiving care. The…

Pain or Vision?

“Without a vision from God, people perish” (Proverbs 29:18, paraphrase). We say that we want to make changes. For instance, probably you’d like to de-clutter and get more organized or lose weight. Or maybe you think you need to get help with your depression, improve your marriage or a friendship, or grow spiritually. Sadly, most…