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Welcome

Bill & Kristi Gaultiere

As Christian psychotherapists since 1987 we shepherd souls with Christ.

Our nonprofit ministry is called Soul Shepherding because we help the pastors, pastors’ wives, missionaries, leaders, and care-givers who help others.

In counseling and spiritual direction we meet with ministry leaders to listen, encourage, and pray. We teach them in groups, seminars, and retreats. We show them how to connect personally with Christ through Scripture meditation, reflective prayer, soul talk, and other spiritual practices.

The result of Soul Shepherding is that individuals and communities (families, small groups, churches, and organizations) are learning to be with Jesus and become like him, doing all that they do in his kingdom. When leaders are helped to come alive with God’s presence it blesses many other people!

You can support Soul Shepherding through your prayers and donations.

Following Christ, the Good Shepherd, with you,

Bill & Kristi Gaultiere

"Fear Not!" 365 days a year

By Bill Gaultiere © 2010

Most every day I talk to someone who is afraid or anxious (which is generalized fear). Maybe you fear what people think of you… Not having enough money… Public speaking, flying, being far from home, or spiders… Failure or rejection… Losing a loved one… Disease or pain… Death…

We all long for more of God’s peace in the midst of the stresses of our lives!

It’s been said that there are 365 “fear nots” in the Bible, one for every day of the year. This is a wonderful thought, but is it true? Most people say no. Indeed, there is not a version of the Bible that 365 times says, quote unquote, ”fear not.” For instance, the King James Version says “fear not” or “be not afraid” 103 times, but not 365 times. 

However “fear” is spoken of over 500 times in the KJV. In addition to the “fear nots” many times it’s saying “fear God,” which really means reverence God alone and do not fear anyone or anything else. Expanding the seach to look at verses encouraging us not to worry or not to be anxious would add many, many more “fear not” Scriptures. This is why I say that there are more than 365 “fear nots” in the Bible!

The Psalmist often leads us in a “fear not” prayer. The Psalms are the Bible’s great soul book, meant to train us to respond to all life situations and difficulties through prayer and trust in the Lord. One example is Psalm 56. David has been seized by the Philistines and he starts to become afraid, but instead he sets his vision on his Lord and Savior in his midst. He praises God and his word to him: “Fear not!” He puts his trust in the Lord…

When I am afraid,

I will trust in you.

In God, whose word I praise,

In God I trust; I will not be afriad.

What can mortal man do to me?

(Psalm 56:3-4, repeated in similar words in verses 10-11.)

What fear is trying to take a hold of you right now? What threat or trouble are you facing?

Pray with David, “When I am afraid of _________, I will trust in you, O Lord.”

And if you’re not afraid now pray it anyway! A time of strength is the best time to pray because then you can “watch and pray” with Jesus, preparing your heart now to take refuge in the Lord when temptation comes.

In “31 Days to Freedom from Fear” I share 31 of my favorite “fear nots” from the Bible and introduce an approach for living by God’s “Fear not!” 365 days a year! 

Do you live near Orange County, CA? I invite you to attend one of the “Soul Shepherding” seminars or retreats I’m leading. I list them on my Calendar.

William Gaultiere, Ph.D. & Kristi Gaultiere, Psy.D. ~ http://www.soulshepherding.org

The Other Side of Deep Darkness

By Bill Gaultiere © 2009, 2010

What do you do when you’ve been mistreated and God doesn’t seem to answer your prayers? How do you pray when God seems distant and unconcerned about your pain? We all go through these trials. They don’t mean that God is angry with us or that we’re not good Christians. It may be a dark night of the soul.

In dark night trials we tend to feel alone, but we’re not! The Psalmist understands and in Psalm 44 he shows us how to pray in the dark. Many of our Bible heroes went through these times, most notably Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane when he sweat drops of blood and on the cross when he cried out, “My God, my God why have you forsaken me?” (Psalm 22:1).

“Deep Darkness” is a prayer I wrote inspired by Psalm 44. It’s a prayer for prevailing with God when you’re in a Dark Night of the Soul or other trial.

What if you’re not going through a Dark Night of the Soul? It’d be wise to “watch and pray” with Jesus now and to learn to pray this way before you’re in a dark night. This way you can cultivate the mature trust and confidence in God that will enable you to persevere through upcoming trials with a loyal and patient love for God. And you can pray for someone else who is going through a dark night now.

Deep Darkness 

Awake, O Lord!  Rouse yourself!

Do for us what you did for our fathers –

You made them to flourish;

Redeem us because of your unfailing love.

 ~

My Lord has let me be mistreated:

I have been humbled by adversaries,

I have been reproached by neighbors,

People shake their heads at me.

 ~

Yet, you bring me victory, O Lord –

                By your right hand,

                By your strong arm,

                By the light of your face –

For you love me.

 ~

We rely on you, our King and our God;

We do not trust merely in our own strength.

In your kingdom, O Lord, we boast all day long;

We praise your name forever – Selah.

 ~

My Lord’s face is hidden from me:

I am as a sheep to be slaughtered,

I am left clinging to the dust,

Deep darkness has covered me.

 ~

Yet, I remember your name, O Lord –

                With my heart’s cry,

                With my hands outstretched,

                With the steps of my feet –

For you know all things.

 ~

We rely on you, our King and our God;

We do not trust merely in our own strength.

In your kingdom, O Lord, we boast all day long;

We praise your name forever: Jesus Christ!

(Inspired by Psalm 44)

In the Dark Night Remember God is another Psalms prayer to help you when you’re going through a Dark Night of the Soul.

In our Soul Shepherding ministry one of our specialties is helping people who are going through a dark night of the soul.

William Gaultiere, Ph.D. & Kristi Gaultiere, Psy.D. ~ http://www.soulshepherding.org

The Lord Jesus is my Soul Shepherd

By Bill Gaultiere © 2007, 2010

I awoke early one morning. It was quiet after a night’s rain. I recited Psalm 23 again and again and talked to Jesus, the Good Shepherd – my Soul Shepherd. What joy to appreciate Psalm 23 anew!

For three thousand years David’s prayer has been offered by people of various faiths and cultures. Jesus himself prayed Psalm 23 – more than that he fulfilled it. And he helped me to paraphrase it into words that restored my soul.

I’m sure that you also need for the Lord to restore your soul each day – there’s no better way than by meditating on Psalm 23. Here, [...]

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The One Benediction You Need

By Bill Gaultiere © 2010

Answered prayer. Success. Victory. We all want to be blessed, to achieve great things, and to overcome our challenges. But when we reach for these desires we can never quite grasp them. The pursuit of happiness never makes anyone happy.

That’s why years ago my spiritual father, Ray Ortlund, encouraged me to “Be all and only for Jesus!” He wanted the best for me. And so he liked to pray Psalm 20 for me. Recently, Psalm 20 inspired me to write a “Benediction of Devotion.”

I’d like to share this short prayer of blessing with you. It’s meant so much to me and to those I’ve [...]

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In the Dark Night Remember God

By Bill Gaultiere © 2010

From time to time we all go through trials in which we lose heart and feel overwhelmed with discouragement, worry, or exhaustion. The painful times are “Dark Nights of the Soul” when our prayers seem to go unanswered and God’s comfort cannot be found.

All Christ-followers go through Dark Nights when God seems distant and prayer and other spiritual activities do not yield the experience of God’s blessings as they have in times past. But few people today have been trained in how to deal with these spiritual trials. Inspired by Psalm 77, I wrote a prayer for [...]

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Be Free! Live in Jesus’ Easy Yoke!

By Bill Gaultiere © 2010

Are you free – really free? Are you at peace being the person God created you to be and enjoying your life with him?

Many people we talk to are wearing a heavy yoke. They’re working all the time. Or they’re worried about money or their health or their kids. Or they’re tired of trying to please an impossible to please spouse. Or they’re depending on alcohol to relax.

Jesus shows us a life of freedom. No one has had more pressure than Jesus. No one has had more responsibility, expectations, temptations, stress, or pain than Jesus. And no one lived life more relaxed than Jesus.

What was [...]

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Come Close to Christ

“[The Lord] raised up for his people [the Christ], the praise of… the people close to his heart” (Psalm 148:14).

“People close to his heart.” I am close to the Lord’s heart! You are close to the Lord’s heart! Doesn’t this make your heart skip with joy? If you join me in this meditation and prayer it will!

Remember John at the Last Supper? He reclined on Jesus’ chest and later he told the whole world again and again: “I am the disciple Jesus loves!” (John 13:23, 26; 20:2; 21:7; 21:20).

What a blessing it is when I’m meditating on Scripture and the Holy Spirit brings the Word to [...]

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The Lord Treasures You!

Psalm 135:4 says: “The LORD has chosen Jacob to be his own, Israel to be his treasured possession.”

Let’s apply this to you and I today. Let’s pause to ponder, paraphrase, and pray this verse.

Today I found myself captivated by a little prayer that emerged from this verse. I prayed it over and over throughout the day. I invite you to pause with me now to ponder, paraphrase, and pray. Open your heart be stirred to appreciate God’s goodness to you!

The Father treasures me as his child;

Christ chooses me as his disciple;

The Holy Spirit lives in me as his temple.

The Lord Treasures You!

Build with Jesus

By Bill Gaultiere © 2010

You know the verse: “Unless the LORD builds the house, its builders labor in vain.” And probably you know the verse that comes later in the same Psalm: “Children are a reward from him.” But you may not know the verse that connects these two: “In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat— for he grants sleep to those he loves” (Psalm 127:1-3).

In God’s wisdom the Psalmist’s prayer is showing us that the way to build a home and a family, or anything, begins with resting in the Lord’s care. That’s why the Hebrew day begins with a [...]

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