A & B Conflict Resolution Tool

Here’s a little tool that offers BIG help for resolving conflicts in marriage and other relationships: “When You Do ‘A’ I Feel ‘B.’” It’s a method for “speaking the truth in love”(Ephesians 4:15). Kristi and I have used this approach for many years personally and in our marriage counseling with couples. (Also Henry Cloud and…

Love Languages Test

This Love Languages Test is a free, simple tool we designed based on the concepts in Gary Chapman’s best-selling book, Love Languages. It’s meant to be completed by you and your spouse, family member, or friend and then discussed in order to help you better understand one another’s preferred styles for giving and receiving care. The…

Speak the Truth in Love

Conflict. It’s inevitable in marriage and our other close relationships. When you love someone you’ll have misunderstandings, disagreements, and hurt feelings in that relationship. This is true for all kinds of people, including pastors and other Christian leaders and caregivers. As it relates to conflict the mistake that we’re most prone to make is to…