Spiritual Friendship: Aelred and Ivo’s Example

We all long for soul talk and spiritual friendship. To feel fully alive we need to participate in personal relationships that are based in empathy and draw us closer to Christ. Empathy is listening to another’s emotions, especially their hurt and need, and communicating warm-hearted care. Infants and children need empathy like they need oxygen, food, and water.…

A & B Conflict Resolution Tool

Here’s a little tool that offers BIG help for resolving conflicts in marriage and other relationships: “When You Do ‘A’ I Feel ‘B.’” It’s a method for “speaking the truth in love”(Ephesians 4:15). Kristi and I have used this approach for many years personally and in our marriage counseling with couples. (Also Henry Cloud and…

The Examen of Consciousness to Practice God’s Presence

An ancient tool for helping us learn to practice God’s presence and grow in a more intimate relationship with the Lord is called the Examen of Consciousness or simply “The Examen.” The Examen? If you’re not familiar with it then it probably doesn’t sound appealing! The idea of being examined is something most of us want to…