A & B Conflict Resolution Tool

Here’s a little tool that offers BIG help for resolving conflicts in marriage and other relationships: “When You Do ‘A’ I Feel ‘B.’” It’s a method for “speaking the truth in love”(Ephesians 4:15). Kristi and I have used this approach for many years personally and in our marriage counseling with couples. (Also Henry Cloud and…

The Examen of Consciousness to Practice God’s Presence

An ancient tool for helping us learn to practice God’s presence and grow in a more intimate relationship with the Lord is called the Examen of Consciousness or simply “The Examen.” The Examen? If you’re not familiar with it then it probably doesn’t sound appealing! The idea of being examined is something most of us want to…

The Lord is My Shield in Emotional Battles

Praying a Psalm with Jesus is a powerful spiritual discipline. “The Lord is My Shield in Emotional Battles” has been a helpful exercise that I’ve used in many Soul Care Group meetings I lead. Introduction Jesus’ gospel is that we ought to re-think how we’re living our life in light of our opportunity, right now,…

Caring for People who Cut Themselves (Help for Self-Injury)

Years ago I was responsible for training volunteer telephone counselors for an international Christian ministry. We were getting 150 calls a day from adults and teenagers who were in crisis, hurting in some other way, or needing prayer. Some of the young people who called were struggling with cutting themselves. This frightened some of our…