Couch Time for Couples
At the beginning of our marriage, Kristi and I were both working full-time jobs and going to graduate schools in psychology. Obviously, we didn’t have…
Tag: Empathy for Emotions
Good Shepherd is Looking for You!
You long to be pursued in love. So do I. “How are you… really? What do you need? What are you hoping for? How can…
Seven Benefits of the Enneagram That Most People Miss
Are you familiar with the benefits of the Enneagram? While the Enneagram is the rage in some circles, most people don’t understand how to harness…
Elizabeth’s Empathy Cured Mary’s Shame
When we tell Mary’s part in the Christmas story it’s easy to idealize her. It’s as if she had such great faith in the word…
Is There a Soul Shepherd in You?
Yes, according to Jesus! He blesses you and calls you into ministry: “You are the salt of the earth… You are the light of the…
Relax With Jesus
For most of my life until about age 40 I struggled with anxiety. Almost nobody knew it because I hid it and because much of…
Be Happy-Sad to Come Alive!
We all want to be happy, but that can depress us! A pastor in my counseling office forced a smile, “I’m happy to support our…
The Wounded Healer as a Spiritual Guide (Henri Nouwen)
Henri Nouwen in his book The Wounded Healer laments that most Christian leaders are not prepared to be spiritual leaders for hurting people. “Our service will not be…
Relaxing Your Monkey Brain
Our thoughts can be “like monkeys jumping around in a banana tree,” Henri Nouwen writes. (The full quote is in our article on “Solitude and…
Emotionally Reluctant Person (Nicodemus in the Bible)
I’m a Thinker. That’s a good thing. Jesus was a Thinker! But, unlike Jesus, I’ve gotten stuck in my head and needed help to learn…