Dulces and Jesus

“For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though he was rich, yet for your sakes he became poor, so that you through his poverty might become rich” (2 Corinthians 8:9). I met Alandro on the Saturday of Thanksgiving weekend, 2001. I was on a short-term mission trip to a small village…

Breaking Free of the Cycle of Abuse

“I’ve never talked to a ca-counselor before,” Cassandra (not her real name) stuttered. She continued, “I’ve been living with my boyfriend the last couple of months. We’ve been dating almost a year.  Well, two months ago my daughter and I moved in with him.  Oh, how I regret that decision,” Cassandra started sobbing behind the…

How Can I Improve My Marriage?

My wife Kristi and I are invested in helping couples who serve others in ministry. Our heart is for pastors and their wives. As ministry leaders ourselves we know the dangers of being preoccupied and stressed with helping other people while neglecting our own marriage and our own souls. We have been counseling couples and…

Relationship Satisfaction Test

Are you happy with your relationship with your spouse or significant other? Do you know your relationship strengths and weaknesses? With this free 35 item Relationship Satisfaction Test we developed you can assess the health of your relationship. We’ve used this in counseling married and engaged couples. Our Relationship Satisfaction Test will assess your relationship in seven…

Depression Test

Here’s a short depression test to help you see if you (or a loved one) might be depressed. This is a simple screening tool to identify key symptoms of depression. I’ve grouped nine key symptoms under the acronym “D-E-P-R-E-S-S-E-D.” The Depression Test Answer each of the nine questions (symptoms), keeping track of your “yes” answers by circling…

Perfectionism Test

Many people have perfectionistic tendencies but for some perfectionism causes big problems. People who are earnestly seeking to follow Christ and serve him in ministry seem to be more prone to struggling with perfectionism. Perfectionism is a response to anxiety that can be damaging to your relationships and your performance. Our Perfectionism Test can help…

Anxiety Test

Are you overwhelmed with anxiety, fear, or panic? Our free Anxiety Test can help you understand if you’re internalizing your stress and need help. The questions for our Anxiety Test are organized in the acronym “A-N-X-I-E-T-Y.” This is a simple screening tool to identify key symptoms of anxiety disorders. Keep track of your “yes” answers, circling any of…

Addiction Test

Are you (or someone you know) struggling with a compulsion or addiction? Take this free Addiction Test to identify if you have the symptoms of an addiction. The hope of recovery begins with an honest assessment of what’s going on with you.  Compulsive problems with alcohol, drugs, food, sex, and other behaviors share some symptoms…

Light Posts for the Depressed

Pastors and their wives, along with other leaders and caregivers may struggle with depression. They give so much to others but may not care for their own souls under God. There are many Bible verses that offer us hope for overcoming depression. Anyone is a student of the Bible knows that the Bible offers tremendous…