216 – COVID-19: The Tiredness You Feel is Grief

Listen to this episode of Soul Talks:  The losses we’re experiencing in this coronavirus season can leave us feeling weary and heavy. The grief is real and needs care. In this candid conversation, Bill and Kristi unpack the stages of grief and what it looks like to grow towards deeper integration and connection with Christ.…

COVID-19: Help for Grief

It’s like there’s a dark cloud called COVID-19 hovering over us. It’s generating worry, irritableness, discouragement, and especially tiredness. What is this dark cloud? What is it that is sapping our energy and causing stress reactions? Author David Kessler calls it “anticipatory grief.” But probably we feel it as anticipatory anxiety. We worry and ruminate…

COVID-19: Feeling God’s Love Despite Social Distancing

“My skin screams to be touched!” a single man cried to me. He’d been living alone and that’s how deeply he longed to feel close to someone. Research has shown that we all need hugs, handshakes, kisses, back rubs, or being present with a family member or friend to be healthy physically and emotionally. Without…

215 – COVID-19: Turning Social Distancing into Solitude with Jesus

Listen to this episode of Soul Talks:  It can be tempting to fill the time we have these days with distractions, but this is a significant opportunity to draw closer to Jesus. Solitude surfaces our needs, emotions, and sin so that we can bring it into Jesus’ presence. Catch a vision for solitude in Christ’s…

129 – Family: Ministry as a Single Person

The Apostle Paul says that being single is better because it allows one to be fully devoted to the Lord. How does one deal with feelings of loneliness? Is there a difference between loneliness and solitude? Join Bill and Kristi as they explore what Paul said and other challenging questions that come up surrounding the life of ministry as a single person.

Relaxing Your Monkey Brain

Our thoughts can be “like monkeys jumping around in a banana tree,” Henri Nouwen writes. (The full quote is in our article on “Solitude and Silence”.) Have you noticed any monkeys jumping around in your brain? Do you find yourself over-stressed, distractible, irritable, judging yourself or others, or anxious? That’s the impish monkeys! They screech…

Rest: When Rest Doesn’t Feel Restful!

When we try to rest, it is so easy to be overwhelmed with the things in our life that feel undone! We begin to judge ourselves and feel guilty for even trying to rest, and are tempted to get busy to make ourselves feel better. Join Bill and Kristi in a honesty conversation on the challenges we all face when learning to enter into real rest.

Take a Shower of Living Water

Kristi and I are leading a five-day long TLC (“To Love Christ”) retreat/training this week for a group of pastors and wives. (I wrote and scheduled this devotional ahead so I can keep a technology fast.) Often when people go on Christian “retreats” what that means to them is great speakers, dynamic worship bands, and…