Too Busy to Play?
“Everyday I can’t finish my work so I have to bring it home,” a young pastor named Eric shared in our group. “But my four-year…
Tag: Boundaries
Ministry Begins With Rest
We’ve been providing care, counsel, and prayer to pastors and other servants of Christ for a number of years. One of the most important things…
Vicarious Trauma in Ministry
If you’re caring for people that have been traumatized or are in crisis then you’re suffering with them vicariously. If you’re a pastor, you probably…
Trying to Grow My Church Drained My Soul
“As a senior pastor I was trying to be someone I was not,” writes Pete Scazzero. “I attended conferences and read books about growing a…
How Church Can Hurt or Help Faith
Without a friend who feels our hurt, stress, and longings with us our souls shrivel up and die. Giving and receiving empathy are key to life in Christ.
7 Steps of Forgiveness
Forgiveness is more than a decision — it’s a process of praying, sharing feelings with a confidante, and adjusting attitudes—and these 7 steps of forgiveness…
How to Set Boundaries With Family for the Holidays
You may love the idea of being with family for the holidays — or maybe not! It can be stressful! And in some family relationships,…
Communicating Emotion to Invite Empathy
Often in marriage or another relationship, we think we have an intimacy problem when really it’s more about a boundary problem. Boundaries between people get…
Codependency Recovery
Many people we talk with are stuck in unhealthy patterns in their relationships. Tolerating mistreatment, rescuing, being afraid to say no, needing to please, and…
Jesus Shows Us Healthy Relational Boundaries
When Jesus lived on earth, he never walked on eggshells around people, worried about upsetting them, clung to them for approval, or pushed to get…