It was so embarrassing. I had a PhD in psychology but I was working as a security guard! While I was completing my degree, I had been building my psychotherapy practice, but when I was done with my schooling my client load dropped from fifteen clients a week down to three and new referrals were not coming…
During the fourteen years that I was fasting from publishing books, Kristi and I were on a retreat with a group of church leaders. Being quiet and still before God opened up my heart so I became aware of feeling deficient and was tempted to break my fast. I felt I was not doing enough…
Do you feel “good enough”? When you see a younger, more attractive person? When you hear about someone who is having more success than you? When someone else’s Facebook page is more exciting than yours? Most of us are prone to compare our personal feelings and weaknesses with our idealized images of other people. That…
Are there Bible verses on perfectionism? What does Scripture teach us about the problem of perfectionism? Over the years I’ve talked with many people who struggle with perfectionism. I myself have had problems with it. In my own life and as I have helped other in psychotherapy and spiritual mentoring I have found that God’s Word…
After nearly two decades of toning down my perfectionism tendencies and learning to be happy and at peace being an imperfect person in an imperfect world I finally gave in. Enough is enough I decided! I indulged my irrational, dysfunctional desire for perfection and just gave in. I sought perfection in one part of my life –…
Many people have perfectionistic tendencies but for some perfectionism causes big problems. People who are earnestly seeking to follow Christ and serve him in ministry seem to be more prone to struggling with perfectionism. Perfectionism is a response to anxiety that can be damaging to your relationships and your performance. Our Perfectionism Test can help…