By Bill Gaultiere © 2001
Daniel Goleman has done extensive research on the concept of an “Emotional Intelligence Quotient” and it’s importance to success in life and relationships. The following questions are based on what I’ve learned from him. Each one asks how you act or feel in certain situations. For each one answer how often it is true of your actual (not desired) behavior or attitude.
1. When I feel bad I don’t know exactly what or who is bothering me.
Always (3) Usually (5) Sometimes (7) Rarely (9) Never (11)
2. When faced with a disappointment or a loss I try not to feel sad.
Always (3) Usually (5) Sometimes (7) Rarely (9) Never (11)
3. I put high priority on how I feel when I make an important decision.
Always (3) Usually (5) Sometimes (7) Rarely (9) Never (11)
4. There are a number of things that I don’t like about myself.
Always (3) Usually (5) Sometimes (7) Rarely (9) Never (11)
5. When I am upset it takes a long time for me to feel better.
Always (3) Usually (5) Sometimes (7) Rarely (9) Never (11)
6. When someone criticizes me unfairly I feel bad about myself.
Always (3) Usually (5) Sometimes (7) Rarely (9) Never (11)
7. I say things to others that I regret later.
Always (3) Usually (5) Sometimes (7) Rarely (9) Never (11)
8. I lose my temper or fume in silence when I get angry.
Always (3) Usually (5) Sometimes (7) Rarely (9) Never (11)
9. My emotions are up and down.
Always (3) Usually (5) Sometimes (7) Rarely (9) Never (11)
10. When someone shares a problem with me I think more about how he/she could solve it then about how difficult it feels for him/her.
Always (3) Usually (5) Sometimes (7) Rarely (9) Never (11)
11. I have trouble handling conflicts with other people.
Always (3) Usually (5) Sometimes (7) Rarely (9) Never (11)
12. I am unable to sense other people’s unspoken feelings on important issues.
Always (3) Usually (5) Sometimes (7) Rarely (9) Never (11)
13. It’s hard for me to wait to get what I want even if I should.
Always (3) Usually (5) Sometimes (7) Rarely (9) Never (11)
14. When working on a challenge I struggle to feel hopeful, energetic, and confident.
Always (3) Usually (5) Sometimes (7) Rarely (9) Never (11)
15. If I have to do something I don’t want to do I put it off till later.
Always (3) Usually (5) Sometimes (7) Rarely (9) Never (11)
Scores range from 45 to 165 with 105 being average. 120 and above is exceptional.
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Bill & KristiWilliam Gaultiere, Ph.D. & Kristi Gaultiere, Psy.D. ~ http://www.soulshepherding.org
