By Dr’s Bill & Kristi Gaultiere © 2012
Based on the book Love Languages by Gary Chapman
This “Love Languages Survey” is a simple tool designed to be completed by you and your spouse, partner, family member(s), or friend(s) to understand one another better.
There are five basic love languages identified below: quality time, affirming words, touch, acts of service, and gifts. Each of us receive love according to our own personality preference and life experience so the question for you and your partner(s) to ask is, “Which languages best communicate love to me?”
How to Use this Survey
Rank the five love languages from 1 to 5 according to what blesses you the most, with 1 representing the love language that best facilitates you experiencing care. Then for your top three love languages identify some examples of caring behaviors that you appreciate. For each love language two possible examples are provided to help you get started on your list.
You and your partner should complete the survey separately. Then share your results with one another. Listen to one another with compassion. Ask questions to get to know one another better. At the end of your conversation you might want to pray for one another. Then look for opportunities to use your partner’s love language by demonstrating the caring behaviors for his or her top love languages.
The value of the Love Languages Survey for your relationship(s) is in the communication process. Most people realize that they’ve been showing love in the ways they personally like to receive it and not necessarily in the ways that their partner is best able to receive love.
Love Languages Survey
| Love Language | Rank 1st to 5th the Love Languages you prefer | For your top three Love Languages identify examples of what would bless you |
| Quality Time | 1. Do something I enjoy with me
2. Share our hearts with each other 3. 4. 5.
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| Affirming Words | 1. Express appreciation for what I’m working on
2. Tell me what you like about me 3. 4. 5.
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| Touch | 1. Rub my back or shoulder
2. Hold me 3. 4. 5.
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| Acts of Service | 1. Bake me cookies
2. Wash the dishes 3. 4. 5.
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| Gifts | 1. Buy something attractive for me to wear
2. Buy my favorite candy 3. 4. 5.
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